I am sure that I am not the only one to have a low that they have sunk to when dealing with hunger. I imagine there are thousands of moments of others who have been so hungry they have eaten things or done things for food that most others would not even consider.
To those who have not been there, I ask for kindness and understanding because the feeling of hunger is one I wouldn’t wish on anyone. And unless you’ve been there, and literally had nothing, please don’t judge or condone the choices we have had to make in order to feed ourselves. If the circumstances had been different we would have tried to make “healthier” choices, but we didn’t.
I sincerely hope whoever is reading this never has to experience the feeling of raw hunger. Of having to make choices and eat or do things for food that under different circumstances would not have even been considered. I hope that whoever reads this always has food.
Hunger. Raw hunger is an ache that can barely be described. It’s not just missing a meal, or been so busy you didn’t eat all day, kind of hunger. I mean hunger that goes deeper than you can imagine. To the very pit of your core, not just your stomach.
It is more than an emptiness. It can literally feel like your body is eating itself, it is so hungry. It is an awful feeling. And when it has been days, maybe weeks, since you’ve seen a meal, your mind starts to lose its capability to function.
You start thinking about food, all the time. You start imagining food, everywhere. You start to see things that normally would not be considered food as the possibility of becoming something edible.
Things like dirt, grass, leaves, flowers, paper, even some furniture might have parts or pieces that could be edible, they all suddenly come under scrutiny as eligible to become food.
To someone who has not been here before this may seem crazy but again I ask for empathy and understanding because if you have no food, if you have no money for food, and neither is on the horizon anytime soon, you start to consider the inconsiderate.
I was no different.
I have my own experiences that I don’t like to think about, and even less to talk about because as much as it made sense in the moment, I’m sure there would be some who would be surprised by what I’ve done.
And this isn’t the only experience of desperation I have. Being hungry often as a child has given me many opportunities to surprise and offend others should they learn the truth. Should they see the reality, that being hungry is not glamorous, nor is it cool, or fun or something to strive for.
The reality of being hungry can be very gross and offensive to those who are not in our position. We do what we need to in the moment. Even we often find it surprising and gross. But we do it anyway. Because it gets us food. It literally feeds our hunger.
One of the things that are more surprising than gross for what I’ve done for hunger is the day I ate macaroni off of one of my art projects as a kid. It has a little element of gross but I think the reaction is more, uh, what? Then, yuk! But I could be wrong.
My idea of gross could be slightly skewed by what I’ve been able to tolerate and endure with years of coping behind me.
I couldn’t help it. I was just really, really hungry. And there was almost no food in the house. And when I say there was almost no food, I mean all we had was a bottle of ketchup, a box of baking soda, and a can of expired beets, and that was it.
There was no bread or eggs or cereal or meat or even boxed macaroni and cheese or crackers. There was nothing. And I did consider the ketchup and the baking soda. But I quickly learned that ketchup is less than filling and very acidic, and to eat enough ketchup to feel full gave me heartburn and nausea.
I did also consider the baking soda but it worked even less than the ketchup and was much faster at causing stomach pain and heartburn. I could have looked past its total lack of flavour if it hadn’t given me immediate nausea.
When hunger shrinks to this deep, aching gnaw at the pit of your stomach, your mind starts to play tricks on you, and things you wouldn’t have even thought of, like eating baking soda, suddenly become viable options. It’s a desperation that skews your ability to differentiate what is a good food choice versus what will simply fill your stomach.
It’s why things like grass and dirt and paper become edible choices. Because if you eat them, you know, logically, it will not nourish you, but maybe, just maybe, it will take away the sickening gnaw that somehow seems to dig deeper every second you don’t have food.
I had considered the macaroni on the art project before but I somehow had managed to avoid using for it sustenance. I used to feel quite ashamed at some of the things I had eaten, and the ways I had gotten food before because it felt like I was a nothing with no moral compass who would eat anything and do some immoral things for food.
My list of immoral actions is not super fantastic nor is it salacious, but it was immoral enough for me. I lied and I stole. A lot. When I was a kid, there were many moments where I suspended my values long enough to find food or means to get food. It may not be a sensational story but it bothered me to do what I did to get food.
I never wanted to be a liar. I never wanted to be a thief. And it still bothers me to this day that I was. It may have been a means to an end that allowed me to eat but it did violate my moral code to do so. Even as a kid I hated how it felt to violate my moral code. But hunger, deep, raw, gnawing hunger, makes suspending that code very easy.
The day I ate the macaroni, I was by myself, and we were without food, even the food bank food was gone, and we were days from getting the next paycheque. I mindlessly picked off one of the pieces just to try, and it wasn’t until after I had eaten a few pieces of the macaroni that I not only realized I was also eating glue, but that I was also eating uncooked pasta. From an art project.
Uncooked pasta is less than satisfying and it actually hurt to digest it. Although some of that discomfort could have also been the glue. What saddens me the most about that memory is not just that I ate macaroni, and glue, off of an art project, but that I looked for other art projects that might have food on it for me to eat.
Sadly, it was the only one. There was nothing else in the house that had anything edible attached to it. And I did look.
I deeply wish that I did not have this experience or memory. Not having food or the money to buy food can make a person feel like they aren’t human anymore. It feels like you become relegated to something less than human who is only on the hunt for food. No matter where you get it. No matter how.
Everything shrinks to surviving and finding food. It is the only thought you have. The only sensation your body feels. Everything else falls away, and it is all about food. All day, every day, every moment, it’s just about food.
Your imagination is filled with food and eating. Finding food. Drowning in food. Being buried in food. Swimming in food. Eating mountains of food. Filling deep canyons with food and diving in. Everywhere you look is food. Everything becomes food. It’s just all-consuming. No pun intended.
I am so grateful that I no longer consider macaroni on an art project a viable food option for me. I am truly grateful that I no longer wonder when I will be able to eat again. I have food. And I can get food. I don’t take that for granted because I know that things can go bad very quickly and I could suddenly have no food.
I sincerely hope I never find myself desperate for food again. And I hope for those currently experiencing not having any food, and maybe even considering their own art projects that have uncooked pasta as a meal, that they are able to get food very, very soon.
Hm, maybe I could help with that. I’m going to look into that. Into helping. So that maybe far fewer would know that deep, aching, gnawing hunger.
Okay, gotta go now.